the truth – about wedding planning

I spend a lot of time trying to prove that clichéd expectations and misconceptions about wedding planners are often far from the reality. What a perfect opportunity for a good clear up – at least with some of the most popular myths.

Wedding planners are like the movies
(think J-Lo or Froooonk)

No, they are most definitely not. Hate to burst your bubble, Daaahlings, but any type of event management is serious business. It requires a methodical approach, a love (ok, an obsession) with details, finely honed skills in budget analysis, time management & negotiation, an almost international level of diplomacy and, as I’m sure you’ll know, a knack of communication and handling people doesn’t hurt either. It’s not an easy job, often demands insanely long hours, on-your-twinkly-toe-thinking and endless patience – but if you love it, all of the above is more than worth seeing the ecstatically happy faces of the couples I get to work with.

Wedding planners are expensive

True for some, but with bride&glory’s mix & match approach you can pick which areas you need help with and I’ll tailor the service to you so you’re only ever paying for what you really need. And on the contrary, I may even manage to save a pound or two by knowing the best sources. And remember, b&g’s hourly pricing structure is entirely transparent so you know exactly what you’re paying for and what kind of commitment you are entering into before making the decision to work with me.

Wedding planners are a solely American phenomenon

True – in the US, about 90% of couples wouldn’t even think of planning a wedding without a wedding planner. It’s less of a reflection of their culture and has more to do with their approach to customer service. Over here, we get our shopping delivered and our cars washed, yet we still think we should be able to plan an event as important as our wedding day without prior experience. Plus: pull off the magic trick of being event manager and bride and groom on the day itself. You’ve heard me say this before: something’s gotta give…

Americans have just been a tad quicker off the mark in realising this and the rising number of couples in the UK working with a wedding planner shows that it’s the way forward. As you’ll hear me say often: you don’t need a wedding planner but you may well want one.

We will lose control of our day

Not with bride&glory. It is YOUR day and I would never want to take that away by imposing my views on you. The b&g Chapel is filled with Martha Stewart Weddings (insane inspiration!) and I’ll happily give you my honest opinion if you ask for it but ultimately, whatever happens on the day is your choice and it is simply my job to make it happen. The most glorious weddings are the ones where the bride and groom’s personalities shine through. Why would I ever try to compete with this?

Only posh people use wedding planners

Another common misconception. Couples who turn to a wedding planner for help come from all walks of life but have one thing in common: they simply do not have enough time to do it all themselves. Saying it again and again: it takes an average of 300 hours to plan a wedding. For people who work full time, this means spending every spare second researching suppliers, reading brochures (and the oh so important small print), obtaining quotes, comparing prices, monitoring the budget – and that’s just the start of it. This is all great fun initially but can turn into a chore eventually, which can lead to frazzled nerves and unhappy brides and grooms. And it really needn’t be like that!

Our venue already has a wedding coordinator

If you have a dedicated contact at your venue, that’s fabulous news and they should be able to take a lot of the time-consuming aspects off your shoulders. I’ve had the delight of working with some simply a-mazing venue coordinators, worth their weight in gold a hundred times over. All I’d say is: bear in mind standards differ and that ultimately, they work for the venue, not for you, and will by definition have to put the interests of their employer first.

How do we know which wedding planner is right for us

How long is a piece of string… Most importantly, I’d say you have to connect and, at best, almost feel like you’ve been out for coffee and cake with a friend. Of course you need to look at the way they conduct their business so you can be assured you are working with a competent professional (always check insurances & references). But, even with the best qualifications in the world, if you don’t click with your potential wedding planner and don’t feel at ease with them, keep looking. Most wedding planners offer complimentary first consultations, so go meet them, let your head guide you and your gut decide – there’s a perfect planner for everyone!