I can’t help but love open up the floor to the most important people in our little industry – the brides and grooms. D’you remember Mrs Moore-to-be’s post a few weeks ago? Well, she’s back for more and I’m honoured for her to have written this feature especially for b&g.
So in her own words – the floor’s yours Mrs Moore-to-be:
Going Bespoke without going broke!
Hello again! Last time we met I remember telling you all about my bemusement at being faced with so many different options as I plan for my marriage to Mr Moore in October. Today I thought we’d continue along the same road but this time take a trip in the direction signposted ‘bespoke’ at the complex crossroads of bridal choice. When H2B and I embarked upon what I now realise is a mammoth task, I knew that event planning, time management and budgeting skills would all be vital to the success or otherwise of our Big Day. But I was completely unaware that creativity would rank just as high, if not higher, on the list of essential skills required for this particular milestone assignment.
I suppose I erroneously assumed that because ours was to be a traditional wedding, comprising a church ceremony followed by the wedding breakfast and evening entertainment, the planning process would be akin to colouring-in the gaps of a well-established template through the purchase of ‘off-the-shelf’ wedding wares. But, if that alone didn’t demand more than enough nail-biting choices, I soon cottoned-on to the fact that there is yet another factor to take into account, namely the pressure to personalise the Big Day so that it has unique elements that reflect something of the character, interests and quirks of the Bride and Groom.
For those blessed B2B who were visited at their cradle by a Fairy Godmother bearing the gift of manual dexterity, the opportunities for hours of pleasure with glue sticks and scissors, icing nozzles and beads are endless. Leaf through any wedding magazine which features ‘real life’ weddings and you’ll find tales of brides who’ve burnt the midnight oil folding origami table decorations, or making rose flavoured Turkish delight favours, or painstakingly writing each and every place-setting with a calligraphy pen in copperplate font.
I dream of being able to do that sort of thing. Really, I do. But with the best will and all the effort in the world it ain’t gonna happen. I simply don’t posses the level of skill required. As readers of A Warwickshire Wedding (http://awarwickshirewedding.com/2012/05/17/heres-one-that-i-made-earlier-or-not/) will know, enthusiastic attempts at making my own confetti cones culminated with an email to Rosie at the very excellent Bespoke Confetti Company (http://www.bespoke-confetti.co.uk/) to ask if they could supply the said cones.
Mention of The Bespoke Confetti Company leads me very nicely to the core of what I want to share with you. Namely, that for B2B like me, who long to infuse their wedding day with personal touches but whose cradle was never visited by the said Fairy Godmother and who weren’t, as consequence, ever blessed with making, baking or creating skills, there’s always the option to commission the design and supply one-off unique wedding wares.
Now I know that the word ‘commission’, like its cousin ‘bespoke’, sounds rather elitist, but if you think about it, most weddings do in fact include some degree of customisation. The wedding cake provides a good example, for although some brides do choose to buy an ‘off-the-shelf’ cake, many more employ the services of a specialist to decorate their cake so that it harmonises with other elements of the day. Replicating the detail of the wedding dress in sugar icing seems to be a particularly popular trend at the moment. Similarly, most brides opt for floral arrangements that are tailored to their particular preferences and specific requirements.
It’s easy to dismiss bespoke goods on the basis of assuming that they will be prohibitively expensive. But that’s certainly not always the case. Indeed, one of A Warwickshire Wedding’s readers has recently sent an email telling me about her experience of buying a wedding dress. She’d seen a dress she loved but it was way beyond budget so she approached a local seamstress who specialises in making wedding dresses and asked her to create something similar. Because the seamstress is making the dress from scratch, she’s been able to incorporate my reader’s favourite elements from several designer dresses thereby creating a completely unique dress at a fraction of the cost.
Of course one of the reasons why taking this route doesn’t have to break the bank is because many of the most talented craftspeople are small-scale suppliers who have low overheads. And thanks to the Internet finding such people is a piece of (wedding) cake. All you have to do is ‘bespoogle’. That’s a word which I made-up to refer to the practice of using the Internet, or indeed any other search engine, to identify suppliers who are able to design and make bespoke, customised goods. And whilst bespoogling has become something of an obsession, it has to be said that this is one obsession, unlike say not treading on the cracks between paving stones, that reaps rewards because I’ve discovered numerous ways in to add a unique dimension to our wedding day.
In fact, I’ve written a few posts about this very subject, so if you’re interested in hearing about how to ‘go bespoke, with out ending up broke’ just hop over to A Warwickshire Wedding (http://awarwickshirewedding.com/2012/05/23/cone-trol-freak/) and I’ll tell you more. Over and out!